Stopping Sexual Assault
- Make a plan – If you’re going to a party, go with people you trust. Agree to watch out for each other and plan to leave together. Don’t leave someone stranded in an unfamiliar or unsafe situation
- Be a good friend – Trust your instincts. If you notice something that doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t
- It’s okay to lie. If you are concerned about angering or upsetting a person, you can lie or make an excuse to create an exit. It may feel wrong to lie, but you are never obligated to remain in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, scared, or threatened
- Know your limits – If you choose to drink, keep track of how many drinks you’ve had and be aware of your friends’ behavior
- Protect your drink – Keep your drink with you and only drink from unopened containers
- Stay alert – Be aware of your surroundings, your condition, and the condition of others around you
If something does happen, it’s important to know what to do, where to go, and that it’s never the survivor’s fault!
- Seek assistance – The College can assist you with seeking medical treatment and counseling. They can also inform you of your options, including campus conduct procedures and reporting to law enforcement.
- Request campus accommodations, if needed – It’s important you feel safe on campus!
- Contact the Title IX Coordinator:
Kristen Alley, Associate Vice President & Dean of Students
12 ASC, 1301 Mable Street
Phone: 660-359-3948, EXT 1400
- North Central MO Mental Health Center, 1601 East 28th St., Trenton, MO, 660-359-4487
- Trenton Police, 17th and Harris, Trenton, MO Emergencies: 911 or 660-359-2121
- Wright Memorial Hospital, 191 Iowa Boulevard, Trenton, MO 660-358-5700. A Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) is available. Call in advance.
- Green Hills Women’s Shelter – advocacy and support for victims of sexual violence. 24-hour hotline: 1-800-942-0649, serving both male and female victims. Two shelters, (Trenton and Cameron) for women and children needing safe refuge. For Trenton shelter – 660-359-3297. For Cameron shelter – 816-632-4900.
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
- Additional resources can be found on the NCMC website
Information adapted from RAINN – Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network – https://www.rainn.org
A good friend knows how to CARE
- Create a distraction – Do what you can to interrupt the situation. A distraction can give the person at risk a chance to get to a safe place. Ex. “Let’s get pizza, I’m starving!” or “This party’s lame. Let’s leave.”
- Ask directly – Ask ?s like “Who did you come here with?” or “Would you like me to stay with you?”
- Refer to an authority – Sometimes the safest way to intervene is to refer to a neutral party with the authority to change the situation, like a security guard or bartender.
- Enlist others – it can be intimidating to approach a situation alone. Enlist others to support you.
Consent is about communication! It should happen every time. Giving consent for one activity, one time, does not mean giving consent for increased or recurring sexual contact. Having sex with someone in the past doesn’t give that person permission to have sex with you again in the future and you can change your mind at any time.
Positive consent can look like this:
- Communicating when you change the type or degree of sexual activity with phrases like “Is this OK?”
- Explicitly agreeing to certain activities, either by saying “yes” or another affirmative statement
- Using physical cues to let the other person know you’re comfortable taking things to the next level
It does NOT look like this:
- Refusing to acknowledge “no”
- Assuming that wearing certain clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation for anything more
- Someone being under the legal age of consent, as defined by the state
- Someone being incapacitated because of drugs or alcohol
- Pressuring someone into sexual activity by using fear or intimidation
- Assuming you have permission to engage in a sexual act because you’ve done it in the past
NCMC’s Definition of Consent: An active process where there is clear and unmistakable voluntary agreement, expressed in mutually understandable words or actions, to engage in sexual activity. Silence or absence of resistance does not imply consent. Informed consent cannot be gained by force, coercion, threat, by ignoring or acting in spite of the objections of another, or by taking advantage of the incapacitation of another, where the respondent knows or reasonably should have known of such incapacitation. Informed consent is also absent when the activity in question exceeds the scope of informed consent previously given, i.e. past consent does not imply future consent. Consent to engage in sexual activity with one person does not imply consent to engage in sexual activity with another. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. In the state of Missouri, consent cannot be provided if the person lacks the mental capacity to authorize the conduct charged to constitute the offense and such mental incapacity is manifest or known to the actor; or it is given by a person who by reason of youth, mental disease or defect, intoxication, a drug-induced state, or any other reason anyone under the age of seventeen cannot give informed consent.